Dating a man with a big ego
Value is inherent; if you don’t have it, you’re going to give yourself away in hundreds of little tells and no amount of “magic bullets” or verbal trickery is going to make up for that lack.
The more you have to tell others about how high-status you are, the less you actually have.
After all, a venture capitalist may be used to being king of all he surveys in the corporate world…
but nobody’s going to give a shit about him at a comic convention.
This manifests itself in almost Don’t get me wrong: having social status and value is definitely attractive.
It’s just that we so often go about mistaking status for other things.
Moreover, women are to guys embellishing themselves in order to look better and are quite good at spotting incongruities.
There’s an obsession with the concept of value and status when you’re dealing with men’s dating advice.
The idea is that, when you boil everything down, women are attracted to high-value, high-status men; therefore, men who want to be more successful with women should be as high-value as possible.
In New York, every guy’s a Wall Street hustler, in DC they’re a consultant and in LA everyone’s an actor or a producer.
It’s not uncommon for guys to try to enhance their resume a little in the name of impressing women; they drop an extra hundred for the Hermés belt (with the big H buckle of course- what good is it if they don’t it’s Hermés?
The women at a nightclub are going to be far more interested in the club promoters or the DJ or the guys who can get them into the VIP section than Patrick Rothfuss, while Neil Gaiman’s female fans are less likely to squee over Kobe Bryant.